Challenge #1: Women tend to marry higher earning men.

Challenge #2: Men are graduating college at a much lower rate than women. In 2020, women made up 58% of all college students (and the disparity has grown since then) (source).

Challenge #3: Men are giving up, withdrawing themselves to easy dopamine hits through video games and porn.

Challenge #4: Husbands who earn less than their wives have increased anxiety levels.

The four challenges above lead to the following logical conclusions for women and men:

1. Women: Women who are highly educated and earn a lot of money have a small pool of men to choose from.

2. Men: If women no longer need you to provide for them, then what value do you bring to the table?

In my previous post, I wrote about how I want to guide my daughters to becoming millionaires by 20. Does this mean I’m setting my daughters up for failure in their personal lives?

Three real world outcomes

The four challenges above lead to the following real world outcomes.

1. Gen X is not getting married

By the age of 30…

• 70% of Gen X was married

• 60% of Millennials were married

• 30% of Gen Z are married

Young people have stopped getting married.

2. Hedonism is the purpose of life

How does this post make you feel:

At first I want to say, “F” this guy. Leave this woman alone. She’s unmarried, childless, and just enjoying her life. What’s wrong with that?

First and foremost, I want to make it clear: I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone. You do you.

Ok, with that out of the way, this video sums up the religion young people subscribe to: HEDONISM.

What’s wrong with being happy?

Nothing in the short run. But in the long run, “…self-obsession is the root of all unhappiness.”

And Hedonism leads to the following:

3. Less grandparents

I’m going to tell you right now, straight up, if I don’t have at least 6 grandchildren, then I will have failed in life.

So then what is the solution? What will I teach my daughters?

Will I teach my daughters that a women should just be in the kitchen, subservient to their husbands?

Will I teach my daughters that a Bridgerton-like society, where the sole purpose of a woman is to get married and have babies, is the ideal?

No.

Should you teach your sons that their main role in a marriage is to provide and protect?

Yes.

Is this a double standard?

Maybe.

Let’s dive in.

What I will teach my daughters and what I suggest you teach your sons

Note: Before we get into my thoughts below, I should add a disclaimer that these are my thoughts and opinions and by no means do I wish to force them on you. You will make your own choices in regards to raising your kids and I will absolutely NEVER judge you for it.

1. Believe in something bigger than money and fame

When the Hawk Tuah girl first became famous, I thought, “Good for her.” She honestly came off like such a good-hearted person.

Then came more fame and followers through her podcast. Then came the money grab through her memecoin:

Look, the Hawk Tuah girl has fame and money now, but will I teach my daughters to be like her? Absolutely not.

Instead, I am teaching my daughters that the purpose of life is so much bigger than oneself, that the purpose in life is to love God, love your parents, love your friends, and love your children.

2. The man must lead, protect, and provide

I am a strong believer that a man must lead, protect, and provide for his family.

You may be thinking, “Why does the man have to lead? Can’t their be two leaders in the family?”

No. There is no such thing as two CEOs. Yes, there is a CTO, COO, CMO, but they all report to the CEO.

At the end of the day, the man is responsible to provide his family with a roof over their heads and food on the table.

Now you may be thinking, “So the woman is just supposed to be subservient and blindly follow whatever the man says?”

Of course not.

But this teaching results in the following: my daughters will be great — they will be so great, that the man they choose to follow MUST be a great man.

This, for example, is a man that a woman should not follow:

3. The woman must follow, support, and nurture

One of my favorite movie scenes of all time is right before King Leonidas from the movie 300 kicks the messenger down a well.

Before doing so, he turns to his wife, who gives him a nod.

Most people misunderstand this scene.

King Leonidas is NOT asking for permission.

King Leonidas is getting his wife’s support.

People think that being a follower or playing a support role is demeaning. You may be thinking, “How dare you believe that women should follow men.”

But you know what, every Batman needs a Robin; every Jordan needs a Pippen.

This is why the MOST important decision that a woman will make is choosing her husband (and vice versa of course). The woman is choosing the man she will follow and support.

And before I end this, I have to leave you with some wise words:

I bet I made some of you mad with this post, but that’s ok. The purpose of my email list is not to make you happy; it’s to challenge you, expose you to some new lines of thinking, and ultimately, to make you a better parent and partner to your spouse.

Things will probably get more controversial from here. Buckle up and enjoy the ride.

Note: a big inspiration for this post was What's Wrong with Boys? by Cartoons Hate Her.